Yuletide Season

Christmas is now over.  No more christmas carols, enough of gift giving.  Our stomach had been full that it can last for five more days and then New year comes in.  Now is the time for  noise, fireworks, firecrackers and maybe some real fire and gun firing.  My mom is now happy wth Mike.  Mike family accepted her wholeheartedly.  I am happy for her at least she had found what she was actually longing for.  I wish that it will last till the day they breatheed their last.  I on the other hand is burdened with family responsibility.  A responsibility that I have no idea why I have to carry when I am an only child and I am supposed to live my life independently since that's what my dad intention is.  But I have to helped out my cousins and other cousins because we are family and that is what fanily do, take care of its own.  Sometimes I wish I get pregnant or get to have my own family, at least I would be burdened with my own babies, my own family.  A family that I built.  But I have prayed too long for that family that I am losing hope of having one. 

Irony of my Life

My mom's BF contacted me last week asking if we can chat.  I thought that it has something to do with my mother.  My mother whom I haven't seen since April of 2009 and haven't talked to since March of this year.  I know my mother and I really do not get along that very well.  I tried my best to get along with her but I grew up without her by my side so the idea of having a mother after 28 years is hard to comprehend. We just met for a few days and then she flew back to Montreal, Canada where she works and I bet she would eventually live since she does not like living here in the Philippines.  I tried to adjust with the lifestyle of having a mother.  She calls regularly to check on me, schedule a chat online every now and then. She even had me chat with her boyfriend Mike (he's the one who’s seeking to get to know me). I thought things are pretty going on just fine, although it was really hard having someone to talk to you to  be careful, reminding how dangerous is it at night time, making sure you gets to eat on time and the right foods and to know who are my friends are.  That was really crazy at first because I love my independence, for the longest time no one had to do that for me well except when I go home to my fathers.

You see, from the moment I decided to live on a boarding house near my school in college, my family (when I talk about my family it means my father, my grandparents and aunts and uncles who by joint force took care of me) they only get to know what had happened by the letters I send and by the time the school days are gone and I had to go home.  I live in an apartment of a couple with 6 kids and some relatives.  They made the rented the vacant room for college girls and had manage to put 4 double deck beds on it.  I live with these 7 girls for three years and more.  We receive our monthly allowance but we live independently.  We do the cooking, laundry, budget our allowance with school projects, extra curricular activities, groceries and misc expenses.  Technology on that day was not as sophisticated as we had to today.  If I need extra money, I had to borrow from my room mates if they don't have any I turn to my classmates, my last option will be my Aunt who works in the next City.  But if series of unfortunate events took place then the last option was to get make a long distance call to our hometown, leave a message to one of our relatives who has a landline.  That message will then be passed over to my relatives who live near our place.  If by mercy that will be received by my father in less than an hour, someone will be travelling to Manila with the money I needed.  That’s how it works by then. 

But thankfully, I was able to graduate and found job.  And now here I am, been to a few companies but still I have a stable job with a good company, (not that high paying job but it pays the bill).  And now after like how many months since the last time my mom called me, shouting at me on the phone telling me things that I never thought I’d hear from her, Mike the boyfriend is telling me that my mom was able to get to know his kids so it will be fair that eh gets to know me too. How Ironic huh? I dunno what he’s up to but I do know that whatever is going on with him and my mother is not my business anymore.   

2010 Almost Over

December is now fast ending and with just less than 30 days this year will be over.  The past 11 months has been full of thrills, dramas and nonsense events.  I would have like to enumerate them all but i think that won't be necessary.  As of now i guess i have fill the next 27 days of 2010 with amazing memories that i can cherish until i no longer remember the why's the how's just know it felt good to know these things happened to me.